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Taso M. 43; self-employed; Shoreham, L.I.
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“I don’t care what you call me; I’m the Archie Bunker of trans guys.… It’s been really hard for me to find women to date.”

Where to find ’em…

Submit More than 80 kinky women and transfolks turn out for this six-year-old BDSM party run by promoters Felice Shays and Red. Participants have access to a shower, padded bondage tilt board, gyno office, dog kennel and jail cell, while voyeurs are welcome to take it all in. “It’s a comfortable shared space,” says Bettina, a Submit regular from Long Island. “And the trans men are really handsome. I see them getting action.” The next Submit party is February 28 from 10pm to 3am ($20, before midnight $15). Call 718-789-4053 or visit submitparty.com for location info.

Snapshot At this long-running Tuesday night party for alterna-queers, “it’s hard to tell who is trannie versus butch, futch, boi or just hot,” says manager Sabrina Haley. “Still, Snapshot is better than most places for finding them.” The Delancey, 168 Delancey St between Attorney and Clinton Sts (212-254-9920, snapshotnyc.com). Tue 10pm, $5.

Bluestockings This collectively run radical bookstore and fair-trade café makes a point of “challenging the gender binary,” and the activist meetings and vegan-friendly snacks see to that by attracting all variants on the gender spectrum. Poet Vittoria Repetto’s Women’s/Trans’ Poetry Jam & Open Mike night, held on the last Tuesday of the month, is one event that draws crunchy trannie-boy poets. The next Jam is February 24 at 7pm ($5). 172 Allen St at Stanton St (212-777-6028, bluestockings.com)

Butch-Femme Matchmaker Although MTF dating sites are in abundance, there’s not much for FTM admirers. This one has the most FTM profiles, but only about ten of them are from New York. Part of the problem is identification—many transmen try to live stealthily—and there’s always the sticky business of classification. butchfemmematchmaker.com

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