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Tracy B. 37; attorney; Newark
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“When guys talk to me on the phone and online, I’m great. Then we meet in person and suddenly my weight is an issue. The chubby-chasers don’t go after me because I’m not heavy enough, and guys who like normal women don’t go after me because I’m too heavy.”

Where to find ’em…

Goddesses NYC “If you want to meet a larger woman, there’s only one place,” says filmmaker, fat activist and self-proclaimed BBW Kira Nerusskaya: Goddesses, Nancy Goddess’s 24-years-running Saturday-night party. Next up: a V-Day fete Saturday 14 from 10pm to 4am ($20, before midnight $10) at 110 Restaurant and Bar (110 John St between Gold and Pearl Sts; 212-571-9776, goddessbbw.com).

Dress Barn Promoter Goddess also recommends “the big-girl stores”: Lane Bryant and Ashley Stewart, along with a particular outpost of Dress Barn. But be warned: According to DB store clerk Olga, “We only go up to size 22/24.” 95-24 63rd Rd at Queens Blvd, Rego Park, Queens (718-275-5732)

Re/Dress NYC Fat femmes (and butches too!) often frequent this new plus-size vintage boutique. “The sales staff is hot and likes to flirt,” says owner Deb Malkin. Bevin Branlandingham, a Re/Dress clerk and host of FemmeCast: The Queer Fat Femme Podcast Guide to Life, has facilitated some of the fix-ups: “I’m big into introducing people in the store.” 109 Boerum Pl between Dean and Pacific Sts, Boerum Hill, Brooklyn (718-522-7962, redressnyc.com)

BBWDatefinder.com Of all the BBW dating sites, this is the most—pardon the expression—plentiful. Nearly 300 profiles pull up in a search within ten miles of the city.

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